Make new friends, but...

So, I love making new friends. Especially new friends with kids. Especially kids my kids age. I am a stay at home mom and often meet other stay at home moms. This past Friday, I met a nice parent with a 15 month old boy... but this parent was a dad.

We chatted the usual, "how old is yours?", "how old is yours?". "When did he start walking?", "He is so friendly!".

Then we got a little deeper, Him: "boys are a lot of fun" Me: "is this your first time here?" Him: "No, we have made a Friday tradition of breakfast next door and toy store play time." Me: "What a good idea! I bet he loves that."

We chatted a bit longer, laughing as the two boys played near each other and then my boy had a melt down. Nap time. We left, briefly raising hands to say "bye".

I walk down the street thinking my usual after meeting another parent, "That was nice, I hope I see him again..."

Thats where I had to do a double-think. (Like a double-take, only it is non-physical and only in my head) HIM. I hope I see HIM again. Is that ok? Is it ok that I want to see another guy again that is not my son nor my husband? Since I have always had more guys as friends than girls, even this wondering caught me a little off guard.

My thoughts are: yes. It is fine. I have boundaries and they are set.

Then, no. Not good. I don't want to make this guy think I am hitting on him.

Well, yes. We are both married, we made that clear when we were talking.

Yes. As long as Luke knows and knows my complete thoughts on this, its ok. If he has any doubts, then I will choose a different day to have a breakfast-toy store routine. (He knows and has no qualms)

What is right in Gods eyes? I would imagine that so long as the friendship remains a toy store playdate or we start inviting our spouses, the possibility of sin is far, far away.

Next Friday, my mother-in-law will be here and Luke wants to come at least for breakfast. Friday is the only day we can do breakfast all together, so if we go, I can make a point that I am fully and happily taken, I am not hitting on him, but that having a friendship sounds nice.

Maybe his wife will be there next week.